Mentoring Men for the Master

SEX- The Maker or Destroyer of REAL MEN

SEX- The Maker or Destroyer of REAL MEN:

Listen to God’s awful warning in 1 Cor. 6:13b-20 TLB: “But sexual sin is never right: our bodies were not made for that, but for the Lord, and the Lord wants to fill our bodies with Himself.  And God is going to raise our bodies from the dead by His power just as He raised up the Lord Jesus Christ.  Don’t you realize that your bodies are actually parts and members of Christ?  So should I take part of Christ and join Him to a prostitute?  Never!  And don’t you know that if a man joins himself to a prostitute she becomes a part of him and he becomes a part of her?  For God tells us in the Scripture that in His sight the two become one person.  But if you give yourself to the Lord, you and Christ are joined together as one person.  That is why I say to run from sex sin.  No other sin affects the body as this one does.  When you sin this sin it is against your own body.  Haven’t you yet learned that your body is the home of the Holy Spirit God gave you, and that He lives within you?  Your own body does not belong to you.  For God has bought you with a great price.  So use every part of your body to give glory back to God, because He owns it.”

  1. A Real Man Has Experienced A Spiritual Re-Birth (John 3:5; 2 Cor. 5:17), which gives a man “the mind of Christ” (2 Cor. 2:16) and enables him to think like Christ.
  2. A Real Man Is Led by The Holy Spirit (Romans 8:14), which simply means he will allow God to direct him, enabling him to direct others in the ways of God.  EVERY WIFE needs a husband and EVERY CHILD needs a father who gets his daily directions from God Himself – more than anything on earth.
  3. A Real Man Abides in God’s Word (John 8:31-32; 15:2-5), meaning he knows it in his head, also in his heart until he can regurgitate it, speak it out, live it out in the presence of his family like the Jewish father did (Deut. 6:4ff).  Ex. My Father and RA Torrey.
  4. A Real Man Walks on His Knees (Luke 18:1; Ephesians 6:18) meaning he lives in communion with the Holy Spirit through the Word of God  We can tell our children to read the Bible and to pray, but the only sure way to teach them is by your example.  Some travel and are seldom home, but when you are at home, be sure your child sees you on your knees, reading the Bible.  Guys, does this describe you?
  5. A Real Man Loves His Wife Above His Own Life or Children (Ephesians 5:25-33), which means he will pay the price of death to show his love for his wife.  Illus:  Pastor Harry Ironside.  Question:  “Dad, when was the last time your children saw you really sacrifice for their mother?”  President of Notre Dame:  “The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.”
  6. A Real Man Is A Man Both of “Steel And Velvet.”
    1. He loves his wife dearly (velvet), but at the same time he does not pamper her (steel), but encourages her to exercise her gifts, stand beside him, and be the mighty force God intends her to be.
    2. He corrects his children (steel), but he is careful not to “over correct” them (velvet) (Ephesians 6:4).  Ex.  Two brothers, one who corrected but did not over correct; his brother did the opposite.  The results.
  7. A Real Man Lives to Give And Not to Get.  “You make a living by what you get, but you make a life by what you give” (Churchill).  Blessed is the man who applies this rule in his home.
  8. A Real Man Knows That “Life And Death  are in the power of the tongue” (Prov. 18:21) and will be careful not to speak even one word that would not build up his wife and children.  “Don’t use bad language.  Say only what is good and helpful to those you are talking to, and what will give them a blessing.” (Ephesians 4:29 TLB).
  9. A Real Man Avoids Every Form of Immorality, which is sex outside the context of marriage.  When it comes to immorality, God commands that a man “Run” form sex sin, for no other sin affects the body as this one does (1 Cor. 6:18).  Why?  Because sex sin falls into a category by itself, for sex is primarily a “Soul Sin” which preys on the body, but pollutes the mind for life.  Illus:  7 year old, sexually abused, carries the scare at 47.  If you are here today and married and yet flirting with some gal, or having an affair which is plain adultery or single and living together or married and on pornography, which is also plain adultery (Matthew 5:28), you have denied your real manhood and are a “fool” in the eyes of God (Prov. 6:32 and a total loser in your own soul and God says “the reproach will remain forever.”
  10. A Real Man Guards The Sacred Gift of Intimacy.  Sex is not primarily physical, but a soul thing – a thing of the heart.  Sex is God’s gracious way to physically illustrate and create a sense of oneness or intimacy, but when you take sex out of the context God designed for you, you “foul” up your Intimacy Factor.  You tweak and deal and re-deal and un-deal what God has designed for  your highest happiness and welfare.  In fact you unite your body with the body of a prostitute and even join Jesus Christ to her.  You rip your oneness apart, and you leave a little of you with her and a little of her with yourself.  (Though you may not even know the person’s name).  And you lose your ability to experience intimacy though you seek it in hundreds of places and find it not.  You have thus destroyed yourself, your marriage, your wife, your children, your business, your happiness and are left in “silent desperation.”  And if you practice this lifestyle, God warns that you have lost your soul (Gal. 5:1; 1 Cor. 6:9; Romans 1:24, 26, 28, 32).

Finally, to sum up A Real Man Knows The Largest Room in The World Is The Room in His Heart And Body  For PERSONAL IMPROVEMENT.   “The total man is not a perfect man by any means.  Rather, he is a maturing man, a striving man, a studying man – but most of all, he is a man who seeks the Father with all his heart, soul, mind, and strength.  He has not arrived at his goal but is on his way to becoming the husband his wife is longing for and the father his children need.  He is a man on the most exciting journey of his life.  He is learning to be a balanced, Christ-centered man – the total man God created him to be.”[1]

 

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ONE REAL MAN – QUESTIONAIRE

 

My Dear Brothers, God is looking for ONE REAL MAN in your home.  Are you that man?  If not, will you be honest, repent and surrender to the Holy Spirit if you are born again; if not, admit you are lost, repent, experience a spiritual re-birth and becoming that man today.

If you grasped the truth of today’s lesson, you should be able to answer the following questions.  It is optional whether you sign your name or not.

  1. What is the first step in becoming a REAL MAN in your home?  Will you take that step today if you have not already done so? _____
  2. Why is sexual sin the most destructive sin to one’s body and mind and marriage?
  3. When a man joins his body to a woman not his wife, what in reality has he done to his own body?
  4. What has he done to the body of Jesus Christ?
  5. Why must a man be surrendered to the Holy Spirit and obedient to God’s Word if he would remain sexually pure?
  6. Why must a REAL MAN realize that the largest room in the world is the room in his own head, heart and life for improvement?
  7. Why do you think that there is a mad push and rush raging in the whole world for same-sex marriage?

 

IN LIGHT OF TODAY’S LESSON, CHECK BELOW.  It is optional whether you sign your name or not:

  1. I am a REAL MAN AND ENJOY INTIMACY WITH MY WIFE ______
  2. I would not call myself a REAL MAN TODAY, but I am striving by the aid of the Holy Spirit and the Word of God in becoming one. _______
  3. I AM NOT A REAL MAN AND AM VOID OF REAL INTIMACY. _______
  4. If you answer to “c” is yes, is it because
    1.  you have never experienced a spiritual rebirth,_______
    2. Never surrendered to the Holy Spirit and the Word_______
    3. Plainly rebelling against the will of God _______
  5. I am repenting to God and my wife and breaking off all immoral relationships today____
  6. I need help from others and will seek it without delay______
  7. If you know it is a sin for you to be sexually impure and do not stop, where does that leave you spiritually? (James 4:17; Psalm 66:18; Isaiah 59:1; Prov. 29:1)

 

Name__________________Email_______________Phone____________

 

I choose not to sign my name____

 

[1] Charles F. Stanley, Man of God, Colorado Springs, Colorado: David E. Cook, 2013, p.122.