Mentoring Men for the Master

Regarding being nourished, cherished, and having their needs met, your wives said, “We need……….:”

Regarding being nourished, cherished, and having their needs met, your wives said, “We need……….:”

 

  1. Feel significant that my opinion matters
  2. Security, protection, that someone is watching out for me
  3. Not afraid of being real and transparent
  4. Honesty with others and himself
  5. Truthfulness, trustworthy
  6. Godly man of the house – when I see that happening most fear & security issues become non-existent for me.
  7. Listened to – which means there is an acknowledgment/understanding of what I am saying.  So often it is easy to speak on different wave lengths in passing as we each are focusing on what is most important to us at that moment.
  8. Thoughtful time – planned or spontaneous time to be together away from the ‘everyday’ – even if we are still sitting on the living room couch or at the dinner table after the kids have moved on to other things.
  9. Encouragement & support of my passions/ministries/identity while at the same time challenging me to grow.
  10. Quality time.  Walks, long talks, Dancing, companionship hugs n stuff.
  11. Provide security, financially and sound judgment
  12. Know that he is there for medical issues
  13. Can count on him for his help and support
  14. Leads us in strong Biblical principles in our daily life
  15. Leads us in prayer daily
  16. Great listener
  17. Know what is important to me for the household
  18. Help clean, make repairs when needed and help with responsibilities around the house
  19. Spiritual leadership
  20. Agape love (unconditional)
  21. Total submission to God
  22. To make quality time with me
  23. To build me up
  24. To be the man that God has planned for him.
  25. I need him to grow closer to his Lord and Savior and look more like Him everyday.
  26. To feel loved in the same way that Christ loves the church
  27. To be the Godly leader of our home
  28. Security, financially, emotionally, physically
  29. To be patient with us.
  30. To know that I am important

 

 

 

  1. To know that my opinion matters
  2. I need him to listen
  3. I need him to ask about my feelings
  4. I need him to share his feelings
  5. To be honest
  6. Leadership as a man of the house, but also spiritually…. Ask us to have bible study (as a couple or with the family) take the initiative
  7. Support – especially with children
  8. I need security – financially, emotionally
  9. DATE NIGHT, set it up (plan and set up sitters) – show me that you care about our relationship
  10. Love on me/respect, stop and show me…..love notes or some type of gesture
  11. Even though I know he loves me, I need him to tell me
  12. I need him to take care of me when I am sick
  13. Hold me when I am sad
  14. Listen to me when I want to “vent” without trying to fix the “problem”
  15. Hold my hand when we walk
  16. I need affection that is not always intended to lead to sex
  17. Pray for and with me
  18. Share his feelings and frustrations with me
  19. Cry with me when we are both sad
  20. Put me second in his life only behind God
  21. Spend time with me
  22. Love our children
  23. Be my “Best Friend”
  24. Laugh with me often
  25. Support me in my decisions
  26. To be trusted in my judgment, especially regarding the children
  27. Financial stability
  28. To feel safe
  29. To feel secure
  30. To be able to talk to him without him trying to “fix it”
  31. To love and accept me as I am and not try to change me
  32. I need him to be reliable
  33. I need him to be trustworthy
  34. I need him to do what he says he will do
  35. To feel heard
  36. To know that my opinion matters